Want to Make Friends Easily? master the 4 C’s of conversation
You probably know someone who makes friends wherever they go, and it seems to be as easy for them as breathing.
You might even be wondering how they do it. Or how approaching new people feels so natural to them.
The good news? You can be like this too — by mastering the 4 C’s of Conversation.
Curiosity. Lead with your curiosity when you are talking to people, especially if you feel stuck on what to say next. By tuning into what you’re curious about, you will naturally come up with questions that drive the conversation forward in a way that isn’t forceful.
Continue. When in doubt, you can summarize what the person said — or even add a similar fact about yourself. An example could look something like this: Person A: “I’m so excited for Thanksgiving this year!” Person B: “Me too! I can’t wait to have my mom’s stuffing — it’s my favorite!”
Commonality. An easy way to start a conversation (or keep one going) is to point out something the two of you have in common. People tend to bond over similarities.
Compliment. A compliment is another great way to start a conversation. It promotes goodwill between you and the other person and starts the conversation off on a positive note. Just make sure the compliment is genuine — complimenting someone just for the sake of complimenting them will have the opposite effect!
Want to go deeper? My free guide goes into more detail.
Feel free to use it as a cheat sheet for whenever you’re at a social event!
