It will hurt. A lot. And you will most likely cry a couple of times. There is no point in sugar-coating it - that’s just the way it is.
There will be days when you will want them back with every fiber of your being.
If the person has a common name, hearing/seeing their name will remind you of them…which will be the last thing you want.
At random times of the day, you will start fantasizing about all of the good times you had with them, and wishing things could go back to the way they were.
They will be one of the last things on your mind before you go to sleep…And one of the first things on your mind when you wake up.
At random times, you will be overcome by this wave of anger. After all, how dare they hurt you after you cared so much for them?
You will beat yourself up for keeping this person around as long as you did.
You will tell “the story” every chance you get, to whoever will listen. And, at the end of your story, whoever you’re talking to will know all about how great things were in the beginning, and how much the person f*cked things up, and how much of an a**hole the person is.
If their name so much as appears in a word problem, you will start a talk-sh*t-about-so-and-so fest.
You will stubbornly insist that you don’t care about the person.
You will desperately wish that the aforementioned statement was actually true.
You will gain the kind of strength and wisdom that can only be learned through experience.
You will be able to spot other potentially toxic people much faster. Toxic personality types are the sort of thing where, once you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all.
You will eventually be able to think of the person without getting emotional.
You will be able to accept that the good times you had are kinda like the toys you played with as a kid - they were fun while they lasted, but are now a thing of the past. And, that’s ok.
You will be able to view the bad times in the same way - as a thing of the past which, thankfully, you aren’t dealing with anymore.
You will be able to see the person and the relationship more objectively - appreciating the good and learning from the bad.
You will stop telling “the story”, and realize that staying mad and continuing to bash this person is only hurting you, not them. And, let’s face it - your friends got tired of hearing “the story” months ago. They just don’t say anything because they love you.
You will no longer feel the need to vilify the person in your mind, because you accept that they are who they are… and that who they are just isn’t for you.
You will be grateful to them for the life lessons they taught you.
You will move on with your life, without all of that dead weight on your shoulders.