So, this morning I woke up to a text from a guy, saying, "Why are you single? You're so beautiful." And I cringed.
Now don't get me wrong - I'm not stupid, or uptight. I know that, when people ask that, they mean it as a big compliment. But, regardless, I'm still not a big fan of the question.
I'm not really sure what answer people are looking for when they ask that. I mean, is that a rhetorical question, like when people ask, "Why are you so gorgeous?" , and you're supposed to laugh and say, "Thank you," because saying anything else sounds extremely conceited?
Or are they looking to probe into your dating history and find potential flaws in you? (Because we all know people have this idea that there is something inherently wrong with being single. *rolls eyes*)
Might I be overthinking this a little? Perhaps; I've been known to do that.
But, the fact is I don't exactly know how to answer that question in a way that doesn't sound either stuck up, desperate or ugly-duckling-esque. And, I don't feel like I need to tell too much about my dating history early on. We've gotta build up to that.
In case you are wondering, here was my response:
But, guys, I need for you all to stop asking girls why they are single. It puts us in such an awkward position for no damn reason.
But, since I know no one will listen, then tell me: what's the answer for when someone asks why you're single?