ASK DAY: We've Been Dating For A Long Time, But He Still Doesn't Know What He Wants
June 17, 2016
So I have reconnected with someone I used to date. We have been speaking now for 9 months. We go out on dates. We talk everyday with no clear of sign of what's what. When I ask what he wants his answer is he doesn't know. Should I be patient & see where things go or do you think if he doesn't know then he doesn't have any real intentions? Am I wasting my time?
From what you wrote, it's clear that he likes you, but he's stringing you along. If you wait and "see where things go", all the dating and talking every day could develop into something more. Or it could just stay the same, until he ultimately decides he doesn't want any kind of relationship. And if that happens, that's gonna really suck, because you will have invested all of this time.
It is a waste of your time to wait for him to make a decision, especially since he's had all of this time. If I were you, I would get out there and date other people. Why wait around for someone who's taking forever to decide what they want, when there are plenty of guys who do know?