"Ladies, we've been hating on the wrong ones. Don't hate the ones who make it known that all they want is sex. At the very least, they aren't wasting your time..."
Story time! So I was on Tinder, messaging back and forth with this guy I'd just matched with. The conversation began normally. In fact, it was so conventional, it was almost boring.
Just when I was about to stop messaging him, he asked me to tell him - honestly - what I was looking for on tinder. Ok, I thought, now we're getting somewhere. And I told him just that - that I was looking for someone to just go on dates and have fun with for now, and if we gel well, work toward something serious.
He said he loved that. But then when I asked him what he wanted, he said someone fun and adventurous who he could "freak and be sexual with".
Now at first, as a woman, my knee-jerk reaction was to immediately write him off as a disrespectful f*ckboy and be offended. But, when I took a step back and really thought about it, he wasn't being disrespectful. He wasn't calling me slutty names and telling me all the gory details about what he wanted to do to me. He was actually doing the most respectful thing he could do, which was to be honest from the jump.
So, of course, I told him I wasn't down for that, and unmatched with him soon after. But, I can't be mad at him - I actually have to applaud him. I've seen too many guys string a girl along, and go through all the motions, making her think they were on their way to monogamy, while knowing damn good and well that he just wants to have sex with her and then dip. So, in a way, his blatant honesty was kind of refreshing.
Ladies, we've been hating on the wrong ones. Don't hate the ones who make it known that all they want is sex. At the very least, they aren't wasting your time. And, if you still choose to get involved with a guy whose told you point blank that they just want to hook up, you do it at your own risk (unless, of course, that's also what you're looking for).
The ones we should be hating on are the ones who will try to gain your trust first and then take advantage of it.