I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months. He doesn't work, which means whenever we go out to eat, I'm the one who has to pay. I was fine with it in the beginning because he kept saying he was going to go back to work soon. But that's what he says every time I ask him about his job search. I can tell he's starting to get annoyed with me for asking. But paying for everything we do together is getting really old. Am I selfish for feeling this way?
Dear Fed Up,
No, you are not selfish. Anyone in your situation would start to feel like they're being used and taken advantage of... because that's exactly what's going on.
Normally, guys would never be comfortable with their girlfriends always paying for stuff (especially when their relationship is new like yours). All morality aside, it would make them look and feel lame. Your boyfriend is obviously very comfortable with you footing the bill for everything, hence the reason he's getting an attitude when you ask him about work. He's in no hurry for that to change. Not only is that unfair, but that is selfishness in its purest form. Not to mention, it raises serious red flags. Always be weary of those that are comfortable with depleting your resources... and looking lame in front of you.
With that being said, it takes two to tango. A person can only mooch off of you as much as you allow them to. If you want to put a stop to all of this mooching, do not pay for another thing. Also, reevaluate your relationship. There is nothing healthy about a relationship where someone is being taken advantage of.